Thursday, November 27, 2008

11月14日 ﹣童十個月 ﹣孩子你慢慢來

這個月有一半時間在香港過!

學會了什麼叫做熱,什麼叫做人山人海!

什麼叫做九記牛腩、山竹牛肉、糯米雞、叉燒包、碗仔翅與馬拉糕等!

回來瑞士後便很想爬, 可總有一隻腳卡住,爬不了!連試了很多天,今天終於大膽了,在滿十個月前的兩天學會了如何用手踏步,便半坐的開始爬了,還滿快的呢!

爬後便要企,企了多天悶了又想學行路... 站著也搖搖搖像布甸,還未穩,便要放開手自己站,當然會跌倒。還想要行,根本就支撐不了!所以媽媽告訴你不可以未學爬,先學企,也不可以未學企,先學行!有些事情是要慢慢來,好好學。好好享受這個沒有記憶的幼兒期,也好好享受從遊玩中跌倒,學習!

再看罷龍應台的孩子,你慢慢來,這已是我第三次看這書,每次看都有不同的感受。第一次看是在完全還沒有想要養孩子的時候,第二次看是在懷孕時,好想好想能像黑洞般把所有與養小孩有關的都收到肚裏。第三次看是現在,童在我身邊,再看仍是會感動!當然我也愛看龍應台的其他著作,也會有不同的感動。

書裏有一張龍應台和安安在浦公英田裏玩的照片,下寫著“浦公英年年都有,孩子這麼幼小,卻只有一次!”

是啊!

孩子,你慢慢來。別長太快,好讓媽媽好好親親抱抱你!

November 14 - Noémie turned 10 month old - Kid, take it slow!

We spent half of her time in HK this month!

She learns what is Hot, and what is people mountain people sea, this is a HK saying of crowded!

And learns what is typical HK dim sum!

She started to want to crawl when we are back, but there's always one leg got stuck and can't proceed. She tries and tries, finally on 2 days before she turns 10 month, she made it, now she's half crawling!

After accomplishing this, she wants to stand, and then walk... of course she's still not good on standing and how can she walk? Mama kept telling her that she shouldn't skip step, she has to learn the basic well before proceeding to the next stage. She should be enjoying this baby time and not rush into the toddler stage!

Here's a book written Prof. Lung Ying Tai - Kid, take it slow. this is my third copy, every time I read it, I have different feelings. The first time I read, I was still single. The second was when I was pregnant, the time when you want to receive all informations about raising kids like a black hole. The third time is now, with Noémie besides me, tears still running down when I read it!

There's a picture of Lung playing with Andreas in the daffodil field and written: "There's daffodil every year, but kids only has one time being so young!"

How true it is!

Take it slow, Kid! Don't grow so fast, mama wants to hug, kiss and play silly games with you!

雪米糍


Snow ball

行行企企


行來行去

好忙好忙!!!

Walk walk stand stand

Has to practice both standing and walking, she's very busy!!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

好風如水,時光荏苒

2008 年 3 月 4 日

2008 年 11 月 25 日

同一張枱

同一部電腦

同一個爸爸

同一個小朋友

同一個攝影師 (媽媽)

大得好快!!

Time flies

March 4th, 2008

November 25th, 2008

Same table

Same computer

Same papa

Same baby

Same photographer (mama)

They grows so fast!!

戀人絮語

一個下午我們在 Le Pain 填肚。拍這張照片的這一天,陽光普照。

爸爸總愛抱妳,你總愛扭他抱。他很愛妳,你也很愛他,你叫他做 da da, 媽媽是 ga ga,每天一醒來便要找爸爸玩玩哄哄,然後不停跟他說一大堆只有你自己聽懂的話。

看著他們倆就像看著熱戀中的男女般。無論誰在和童玩,玩得有多高興,多熱烈,只要爸爸一出現,童便要撲向爸爸。

半夜如果童因牙痛哭醒,爸爸會忍不住抱妳到我們的床,和妳一起睡。如果出牙很痛,怎樣也睡不了呢?爸爸便會像龍貓般讓妳伏睡在他胸膛上。

每次走在街上遇見朋友,爸爸總會露出得意和驕傲的表情。

幸福的你有媽媽爸爸、爺爺奶奶、Gotti (godmother)、Götti (godfather) 和媽媽的一大堆朋友疼你,而且他們會輪流來瑞士看你,現在的你擁有全世界!

媽媽每天帶你到對面山頭公園看咕咕叫的山羊、有時又到 Kusnacht 湖邊餵鴨鴨、還有時到動物園,到你最愛的水族館看 Nemo。

爸爸又會在星期天帶你到森林行山,看樹木、有時又到另一個山頭看牛牛,看雪山。到爺爺奶奶家更好玩,大房子像城堡般有待發掘,閣樓還有一堆老玩具在等著你!!

真羨慕你能這樣,每天玩玩玩!

你學會了親親,便常常親你愛的人,去表達你的愛,雖然被親的會滿臉口水...

但願你會一直把媽媽爸爸當你的戀人看,好讓我們能與你分享,分憂。

A Lover's Discourse

One day, we ate at Le Pain.

This picture was taken on a very sunny day.

Papa likes to hold you, and you know how to make him to hold you. He loves you and you love her, you call him 'da da' and mama is 'ga ga'. The first thing you do in the morning is to play with him and talk to him in your own language...

When you look at them, is like you are looking at a lover, no matter who's playing with Noémie, no matter how happy she is, everything will change when papa appear! She wants him at once!!

If Noémie wakes up in the night because of the teething pain, papa can't help himself to bring him over to our bed. If it really hurts, and couldn't sleep again, papa will put her on his chest, like Totoro...

Papa always have this proud look when he's carrying her.

Lucky like you have mama, papa, grandpa, grandma, Gotti, Götti and a whole bunch of mama's friends loving you, they even take turns to come to Zürich to visit you, do you know you almost own the whole world now??

Mama always take you to the park across our home to watch goatie, sometimes we go to Kusnacht lakeside to feed the duck, sometimes we go to the zoo and aquarium to visit Nemo.

Papa will bring you to walk in the wood on sundays, to watch trees, and sometimes to the top of the hill to watch cows and the alps. If we go to granparents' home, woo, it's an adventure in this big house, plus, there are lots of antique toys in the attic waiting for you!

Mama envy you that you can play play play as a job!

Now you know how to kiss and always kiss the one you love, to show your love, of course our face will be all wet...

Mama hope you will always take us as your lover, so that we could share everything with you.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

魯嚕

台灣人喚自己女兒“嚕貍”,因是台語,我也不知道正字是什麼。因小時候住台灣,我對國語及台語有一種說不出的親切感。不知為何,我特別喜歡這個音調,所以阿福媽一直喚我作“嚕貍”。

我是阿福媽的“嚕貍”,我現在又有了自己的“嚕貍”,而且很愛魯。所以,童是“魯嚕貍”。
事情是這樣的。

九個月三星期的童開始愛魯(煩人,耍賴的意思),不肯讓我穿鞋、不肯坐車座、不肯喝奶、不停的把飯碗倒轉、故意鬧、故意哭、弄臭臉。

童總是喜歡在五時後開始耍性子,因為玩了一整天,人已極度疲累。一到這時段就可以清晰看見童的暴力傾向,掉玩具、任性、把水杯掃到地上和抓媽媽的臉等。童聽得懂 NO,知道是什麼意思,但五時後她就裝作聽不見,老是要鬧,要作對。因為發生了太多次,媽媽很氣,決定用跟童同等的智商耍回去,以其人之道還治其人之身!

你抓媽媽的臉,媽媽也抓你的臉、你打媽媽,媽媽也打回去!當然我是沒有用力,只是裝。童知道事態嚴重,又得不到她想要的。便低著頭,不作聲,扁嘴,繼而哭。媽媽對此也不讓步,哭吧,是童不對!
後來你想我抱你,我堅持不抱,還不給你坐到我身旁,我只肯跟你對望說話,跟你解釋說你這幾天如何不乖和不禮貌。

後來,你知道了,不哭了,爬到我身旁用你的方式告訴我你不再鬧,會乖,你想親我,想跟我說話,想看我的笑容。

當然媽媽立刻把她抱起親了她的大面頰。

媽媽就是這樣硬性子,你要魯,媽媽也會跟你魯下去!你愛媽媽,媽媽愛你一輩子!

Luli

In Taiwan, people called their daughter 'luli', since it's Taiwanese, so I don't know how to translate or how to write. I lived in Taiwan since birth till 3 or 4 year old so I have a special attachment to Taiwan Mandarin and Taiwanese. And for some reasons, I really like this 'luli', I like how it pronounce, so Afu mama always called me 'luli'.

I am Afu mama's 'luli', and now I have my own 'luli', and she really likes 'LU' (LU means showing temper and annoying), so I call Noémie 'lululi'.

How does she 'LU'?

This 9 months 3 weeks old Noémie started to know how to play around, she doesn't let me wear her shoes, doesn't like to stay in the car seat, refuse to drink her milk, non-stop playing around with her bowl, likes to mess things up, likes to cry. She doesn't like anything, only likes to not corporate!

Especially after 5pm, she will become a 3M post it, just sticking on my body... well, I could understand that, after whole day playing, she's extremely exhausted. But at this time, we can see how violence, how she abuse the toys, push the water bottle onto the floor, and scratch my face... She actually understand what is a 'NO', but not after 5pm... she always pretends that she didn't hear anything from me. And since it's not the first time in this 2 weeks, mama got angry, decided to treat her in the same way!

When she scratch my face, I scratch her back, and when she hit me, I hit her back. Of course I am not hurting her, just want her to know how it feels! And she actually knows it's not funny anymore, so she look at the floor, not making any sound, and then cry. So I let her cry, it's her bad, so she could cry!

Then she started to want to come to me and want me to hold her, I just sit there and told her what have she done wrong and insist on not holding her.

And she understood, she stops crying, came to my side and sit besides me and use her way to express that she's knew that she was wrong and kiss me and talk to me, wanting me to smile at her.

Yes, of course I did hug and kiss her at once!

Noémie, this is your mama, if you like to play around, mama will play with you, if you love mama, mama will love you forever!!

Thursday, November 13, 2008

學怎樣做大人

偶然,妳也要過大人的生活

偶然,我也會帶妳過小朋友的生活

偶然,妳也要知道不是每一個地方,場合都可以給妳四處走

偶然,妳也要見一些大人飲料

偶然,妳也要學曉要坐定定



事情是這樣開始的

到了 Grieder (有點像香港的 Shangri-la) 的餐吧喝下午茶(酒),童很乖,靜靜的站著自娛,路過的太太都跟她打眼色。過了一會,有一媽媽帶著兩個小朋友坐下來,大的女孩大概三歲,小的男孩大概兩歲。先形容一下媽媽,身穿緊身襯衣,牛仔褲,腳踏一雙不過分高的高跟短靴。兩個小孩乖的不得了,當然他們倆也有走到鄰卓與人搭訕,小男孩也有手抓糖壺來玩,可是看得出他們懽得適可而止,並沒有發瘋般四處跑。

當然小朋友也需要有能讓他們能發瘋般四處跑的地方,所以才有設有兒童天地的餐廳。但總覺得做媽媽爸爸的也不能因為遷就小朋友而放棄到訪沒有設兒童天地的場合。我有一朋友說過,她不會為兩個女兒而完全改變自己的生活,調節是有需要,可是不能就此放棄到咖啡館而變成天天歡樂天地。

媽媽爸爸跟小朋友一起學習,小朋友也要跟媽媽爸爸一起學習!

Learn how to behave like a grown up

There are times, you have to be involved in grown up's life

There are times, mama will be involved in your children life

There are times, you cannot run around as whenever you like

There are times, you have to know there are some drinks not suitable for you

There are times, you have to learn to be seated properly

Things happens like this

We went to Grieder for tea, Noémie behaves very well, she was playing and standing quietly, all the ladies passed by can't help to wink at her. And then there's a mother came with 2 children, the older girl is about 3 years and the younger brother is about 2. Mother is well dressed and stylish, wearing a tight shirt, jeans and a low heel boots. The 2 kids are very well behaved! Of course they would still be interested to walk around, but they never really disturbed other customer. The boy still grab things from the table to chew, but they never were running around or scream.

Of course children needs to run around, this is what they do, but they should also learn that there are places not allowed them to do this and the parents can't always be with them in the children paradise, they also need their own life. Once a friend of mine told me that she would never change her lifestyle because of the 2 girls. She can make adjustment, but never always going with them to the same parks, same children paradise, she also needs her paradise!

Parents and kids, let's learn and grow together!

去吧,米!

為期四天的幼兒園訓練班在第一天已順利過渡!到步後便立刻讓老師抱著,然後又唱歌、又吃早點 (人家吃果醬牛油麵包,她吃淨麵包)、又有很多小朋友陪玩,米開心得不得了!三分鐘便把媽媽和爸爸把拋諸腦後,手拿玩具咬個不停。

看著她在交際是一種享受,當小朋友們在玩時媽媽和爸爸坐在後座看。第一天就遇上了小小麻煩,Sophia,兩歲半,跟米在玩同一個玩具。一開始便見她不停的把那玩具拉向自己,然後又把所有人偶收起,不想給米看到。米像撿破爛般拿到什麼便玩什麼,對米來說是不在乎,她只管好不好咬。後來情況越來越嚴重,Sophia 進展到從米手上搶走她正在咬的。米也不甘示弱,從 Sophia 那堆內拿回來,就這樣搶來搶去了兩三回合。媽媽正在懷疑米會否哭或大叫,她就轉身拿別的來玩,還玩得哈哈大笑。媽媽在她頭上看到一個對話泡泡,裏面寫道:“好叻咩,後面大把嘢玩,唔好嘥我時間!”媽媽和爸爸賽後檢討,覺得這未嘗不是一個好解決辦法,米採取了多一事不如多少一事的態度,況且只是一個玩具,何必爭風吃醋!忍不住要唱:童年的你~ 必定天真可愛~ 你真的很乖,很可愛!第一次看到米獨立的一面,她亦學曉了在這世界上也有人沒有必要讓她,也有自私和不禮貌的人。總要面對真實社會,媽媽只希望她能保持她那天生的和平赤子之心。

去吧,米!去學做人!

Go Noémie Go!

We had a 4 days krippe (nursery) training, the first day is no problem, she's happy to be in the krippe. First, she let the teacher hold her at once, and then they sing, and they had morning snacks (all other kids were eating butter and jam bread, and she can only eat plain bread), and then there were many children together with her, she's really happy!! Forgotten mama and papa in 3 minutes, only concentrating on the various toys lying on the floor!

Watching her social is an enjoyment, when they are playing, we watched in the back, she encountered some problems. Sophia, 2 years 10 months old were sharing a circus toy with Noémie, she kept pulling the toy to herself and kept all the dolls to herself, Noémie tried a few times to pull it and to take some dolls, but Sophia can always pull it back and she even grabbed the toy off from Noémie's hand, Sophia would even turn her back at Noémie or uses her legs to stopped Noémie from approaching to her side. Then, they pulled 4 to 5 times back and forth, I was worrying that Noémie will cry or scream, and at this point, she turned away and pick other toys. I can see she has a comic conversation bubble on top of her head saying: "Well, there are so many toys on the floor, I can play other stuff, don't waste my time on fighting with you!" We thought this is also a good solution, to solve the problem in a peaceful way, and didn't fight physically, she's such a good girl!

This is the first time we saw her independence, she learned that there's someone out there who won't give her whatever she wants and loving her is not a must. She has to face the real world sooner or later, mama rather she face it sooner and to be tough. But I hope she could keep her peaceful and pure mind.

Go, Noémie, go! Learn how to behave as a human being!

第一次.品味早餐

今天是妳的第一次跟媽媽和爸爸長時間分開,單獨和不認識的人相處(在爬行城堡幼兒園)。

媽媽的第一次沒有妳在身旁單獨出外,和認識的人相處。

今天到了Le Pain Quotidien ,全天候早餐!一日之計在於晨,早餐實在太重要,種類選擇要多,分量也要多。首先講麵包,德國和瑞士人的麵包以健康出名,麵包是必備主食,Le Pain Quotidien 有法國麵包 Baguette, 可頌麵包 Crossaint 和有名的德國黑麥麵包。這裡的麵包新鮮好吃不用說,環境有 After School 的氣氛,就連水也好像好喝點。麵包放在藤編的麵包籃內,坐位前墊一個白瓷盤,在上塗麵包,隨便刀子怎麼切牛油怎麼刮果醬都沒事,看上去活像一個調色盤。而且用過的瓷盤也不必特意清洗,只要把麵包屑撥乾淨,下次又可以直接拿來使用,方便實用又省事。另加一大碗牛奶咖啡,果醬和自家製榛果巧克力醬。果醬的選擇有分看得見整粒果肉的 Konfitüre 以及攪拌至看不見果肉的 Marmelade。整粒果肉的杏果 Konfitüre 比較酸,但是吃得到天然的風味;看不見果肉的紅雜果 Marmelade 放了魚膠(Gelatine),吃起來像是在吃融掉的果凍;巧克力醬還有分白巧克力,牛奶巧克力和我最愛的黑巧克力醬!!基於瑞士人比較嗜甜,服務生自然會多問一句要不要蜂蜜。不要少看這蜂蜜,跟榛果巧克力醬或是花生醬拌在塗好牛油的麵包上時,咬一口便有一種飽滿的幸福感。現在流行有機食品,這店的原則為全店使用有機或回收材料,舉例說,店內所有的木製傢俱便是用回收物料來做的,真個環保!

把 Le Pain Quotidien 的所有調在一起後,這地方幫我找回從前拿著電腦到咖啡館坐老半天的那種感覺。沒有童在旁,換了姍姍在,我們無牽無掛的專心聊天,專心聆聽,有什麼比得上有好友相伴品味人生,試新事物的感覺?!

可是媽媽始終是媽媽,問題又來了,看見店裏精美的高凳,我心裏就想著一定要帶童來享受一次。不敢說出口,可離開前姍姍還不也是說了下一次要帶婷來享受一次??媽媽,媽媽,就讓我們下一次一行幾人一起閒話家常,輕鬆地看風景,聽聽音樂。咖啡沒了可以再點,麵包沒了可以再切,總之,就一起過一個用心經營,無憂無慮的早餐,不持續個兩三小時不罷休!

First time, breakfast

This is the first time you are alone with new people for such a long time.

This is the first time for mama to be alone with people I knew for a long time.

Today I went to Le Pain Quotidien with a good friend, they serve all day breakfast! As breakfast is a very important thing, there should be variety and quantity. No energy no life! Bread in Germany and Switzerland are well known for healthy and important, just like our rice. Le Pain Quotidien has French baguette, crossaint, muffin, and black rye bread. The bread here is very fresh and tasty, the ambient is also very nice, it seems like the water also taste better. The bread were being placed in the traditional rattan basket, a white pottery plate placed in front of your seat. You don't have to worry that you will ruined the plate, you can spreading butter and spooning konfitüre on it freely. It looks like a color palette from far. Another good reason to use it because you can just wipe it, without washing it and can use it again! About the fruit jam, there were 3 jars on the table, konfitüre with fruits, jelly-like marmelade and hazelnut chocolate paste. konfitüre is a bit sour, but can have a taste of the fruit and marmelade is too much like jelly, it's like eating melted jelly... There are white chocolate, milk chocolate and dark chocolate paste, of course I like the dark one most! Since Swiss people likes sweet stuff, they server will always ask if you want honey, and when you put honey, chocolate and peanut butter together on one bread, you will know what am I talking about! It's like in heaven!!!! Now is the trend of being organic, this shops uses organic ingredients for everything and the wooden furniture are all made out or reused materials.

Le Pain Quotidien let me re-discover the feeling of being in a nice coffee shop, working with computer, read newspaper or do some writings. Without Noémie, I can enjoy my breakfast with sansan a lot, we could do real talking, and taste the coffee and jam!! It's so nice to have someone who dare to try out new things with!!

Finally, mama are mama, I was always thinking that I must bring Noémie to this place once. And before we stepped out the door, sansan also said she has to bring Céline next time! So, let's go there all together as a big family and chat, eat and listen to the nice music. And sit there for 3 hours!!

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

10月14日 ﹣童九個月

婆婆離開了蘇黎世!頭幾天童不太習慣沒有人常哄著,只要一走開便會抱怨!三天後,不習慣還是習慣了!我們弄早餐,童會自娛,還可以把她獨個兒留在房內。

這,是發生在柏林/波蘭之旅時,童的第一個長途旅程!9月17日我們便飛香港,回家去,另一個更長途的旅程!

另外一樣不習慣的是現在洗澡時只有一個人服侍,再沒有二或三人侍奉左右!

這個月坐得很好、會翻身、可以站、想走路、愛吃生果麵包乳酪菜和魚、會一點點與人溝通。

上了第一堂游泳班,玩得很高興,浮游得像個肥波!

媽媽的手提電話給童的口水淹壞了... 手提電話千萬不要放在小朋友能觸及之處!他們只管咬!!

終於在9月8日,有你的房間了!移開了客床,小睡床放好了,就在這裏開始你的獨立生活!

給她報了名到幼兒園,從十一月中便可以開始。這爬行城堡(幼兒園的名字)離我們家很近,用腳走還不消十分鐘。是時候送童去學習社交應酬,學怎樣與人相處和分享禮讓,什麼時候要據理力爭。

9 個月活在肚內, 9 個月活在世上和在忙認識宇宙的同時,媽媽也要去重新認識宇宙!和童一起!

Noémie 9 months old

Grandma left Zürich, she's not so used to not being around people, she'll complain once you walk away from her! It took her 3 days to get use to it. On the 3rd day, she could entertain herself, even being alone in the room!

On September 17th, we are going to fly to HK, another long-haul trip after Berlin/Poland!

Another thing she's not use to is that there's now only one person to serve her while bathing!

This month, she learned how to sit, to roll, to stand (while holding), wants to walk, loves fruit, bread, yoghurt, vegetables and fish! She even knows how to interact and flirt with people!!

We went to the first swimming class, she had fun, floating like a ball!

She flooded my mobile phone by biting...

On September 8th, you have your own room! Moved the guest bed to the other side of the room for her cot, and everything's set, will start you independent life here!

We applied for nursery, she will be there in mid-November. This is a place called Crawling castle, it's very close to our home, 10 minutes walking distance. It's the time now to send her to learn how to social with other babies, to share and when to fight for her rights!

9 months ago, she's still in the belly, 9 months now, she's alive on this universe. Busy getting to know this place, and mama too, has to learn many things, let's learn together, Noémie!